Forgiving yourself can often be the hardest person to forgive. As humans we are often overly critical of ourselves. More specifically we are critical over mistakes we might have made or even if we do reach a goal, we knit pick about how the results of our success could have been improved.
Everyone is Human, Therefore Everyone is Flawed.
We often forget the basic knowledge we learned in elementary school and that is that we are all human and the situations and circumstances we go through make us who we truly are. So, the first step to forgiving yourself is knowing that your background where you come from and the personality that you have is unique and we all have imperfections but that makes us special. Most of us are unable to forgive ourselves because we judge others as harshly as we judge ourselves. Once you truly let go of the anger you feel for other people who have hurt you whether it is resentment from past boyfriends/girlfriends or ill feelings toward a family member you in turn will realize that forgiveness brings you peace. Keep in mind, when you are forgiving someone to see the situation or situations that caused a conflict in that relationship from their prospective. You’ll often come to the conclusion and even gain closure by acknowledging that we all have our faults, and it always best to just truly let it go.
You Should Forgive Yourself because Your Health Depends on It.
In the U.S. 16,000,000 is the estimated number of adults who had at least one major depressive episode in 2012. Of that 16,000,000 , 70% of women are more likely than men to experience depression in their lifetime. Not forgiving yourself can lead to you doing a lot of overthinking, beating yourself up, and causing you to have low self esteem. According to, a study done by John Hopkins about healthy aging and forgiveness. The study concluded that not forgiving can have damaging affects on your health. In reference to not forgiving, Karen Swartz, M.D. the director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital says that, “There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” . On the plus side, there is many benefits to forgiving and finding that inner peace. Forgiving is nothing but beneficial for you, studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health such as, lowering the risk of heart attacks, improving your cholesterol levels and improving your sleeping habits, and reducing pain.
Express the Genius and Creativity Inside You
Your mindset is the key to your happiness. It's scientifically proven that your brain tells the rest of your body how to function. If you look at it in a kinetic point of view your brain tells your body to move, therefore your limbs and muscles because of the instruction from your brain begin to allow you to walk and run. Therefore, if you apply this same mindset to how you think you will be able to affectively forgive yourself. You have to declare that you are human, you have flaws, and that’s okay. You can start off by telling yourself "What happened wasn’t fair, but everyone makes mistakes just like me, and everyone can be forgiven including myself." or " I will have an amazing day today ". Your mind will eventually after saying these declarations translate these positive thoughts and your body will follow suit, so you can give peace back to yourself. Forgiving yourself can be a process, but the process is well worth it, forgiving is key on the journey to being the person you are destined to be. Even if you do not have someone in your life that is an example of how to forgive you don't have to be a Xerox of somebody else, be original copy of yourself and set the pace for your family or group of fiends who have trouble forgiving others or themselves.